Stop Stress: The Crazy Simple Stress-Busting Tool You’re Not Using (Yet)

Stop Stress: The Crazy Simple Stress-Busting Tool You’re Not Using (Yet)


Hey, it’s Marie Forleo and you are watching
MarieTV, the place to be to create a business and life you love. And today I want to let
you in on a little trick that I’ve been using to completely obliterate stress. Now,
to give credit where credit is due, this is all thanks to my man Josh. So earlier this
year we were in LA and it was really, really warm out. I mean, it wasn’t just nice, it
was Marie-warm. I’m talking flip flop weather. Anyway, I was pacing around and I was venting
about something stressful that was happening in our business. Now, my venting is usually
pretty loud and it’s R rated. So when I got off the phone Josh naturally asked, “Is
everything ok?” And I said, “You know what? Everything is amazing except for this
one little thing that’s causing us so much stress and taking up so much time and it’s
driving me bonkers.” Now, my man Josh knows me really well and
he also knows I’m a problem solver and I love a doable, so he gave me one. He said,
“You know what, Marie? You should keep a stress log.” And I said, “Hm, go on.” He said, you know, “You should write down
everything that’s stressing you out. You should make a list.” Because he also knows
I love to make lists. So immediately I knew this stress log idea was genius and here’s
4 reasons why. Number one, it’s cathartic. So you’ve
heard of exorcisms, right? Well, this is a way to give yourself an instant stressorcism.
You get to purge all of your stress demons out of your head and down onto the page, and
it’s also a place that you can go to dump your stress and deal with it strategically
so you don’t have to always keep your stress living in your head or in your body. Number two, it causes shrinkage. And when
it comes to stress, that is a good thing. You know, when all of us get stressed out
it can feel like everything in our life is stressful. It’s almost as if we have this
huge amorphous blob over our life and we can’t seem to manage it. But the moment that we
write down exactly what’s stressing us out, all of a sudden that big blob shrinks down
to these manageable little peanuts. Makes it really kind of cool. It’s a lot easier,
of course, to say, “You know what? I have these 3 things that are stressing me out right
now,” rather than, “OMG, my whole life is so stressful.” Number three, it’s actionable, and this
is my favorite part. So when I write something down in my stress log, immediately my mind
goes to work on how I can start to actually solve that problem. So right there on the
page I start working out the strategies that I can take and then I share them with my team
and we see if we can bring them to life. Now, the cool thing here is if you can’t solve
a problem completely, ask yourself: What can you change about your attitude or your approach
so that you don’t continue to stress yourself out about it? Number four is it gives me power. So knowing
that I have a specific place to write down my stresses and I have a system to deal with
them, that gives me a sense of power and strength that I just didn’t have before. I know it
might sound silly, but now when something stresses me out I actually get excited to
go write it down in my stress log because I feel like, “You know what, little stress?
I own you. You can’t stress me out anymore. In fact, your little stress ass is gonna be
grass.” So point is, I would highly encourage you
to experiment with your own stress log if this sounds like a good idea. You can do it
in a little notebook or you can do it digitally, it doesn’t matter, but it all does come down
to remembering this tweetable. Writing it down kicks stress outta town. So now I would love to hear from you. Let’s
have some fun with this stress log idea starting right now. So in the comments below identify
one specific thing that’s stressing you out in your business or your life and then
tell me 3 possible solutions that would help you fix it. I cannot emphasize this enough.
Writing this stuff down is so empowering. What you’re gonna see is whatever stresses
you doesn’t have to be this constant thorn in your side. You can do something about it.
Whether you find a permanent solution or you experiment with some things or you just need
to change your attitude or your approach. Do your best to be as specific and detailed
as possible. Now, as always, the best discussions happen
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65 Replies to “Stop Stress: The Crazy Simple Stress-Busting Tool You’re Not Using (Yet)”

  1. That josh is SO smart. I've done something similar to this for a few years. I call it a "brain dump" – and I do it in the morning as part of my sacred practice. I don' just dump out the stressors, though. I also pour out all the to-do's, gratitudes, etc. Getting it all out of my head is such a helpful practice – keeps me clear and able to focus on the must do's of the day. Right now, I'm planning a move (we just bought a house), and there are always more details that keep cropping up. One of the things I've chosen to do to mitigate the stress, is to receive each new detail as a "pleasant surprise" and act like each one is a shiy new gift, wrapped up with a big bow for me to unwrap when the time is right. That keeps me from freaking out about every new detail, and allows me to address each on in its own time.

  2. Yes, I have become addicted to MarieTv! I so look forward to my Tuesdays 🙂 loved this episode because it is her real life she is sharing. I have a journal I keep and I do make to do lists but will attempt a stress log today. Thanks!

  3. EXACRLY what I needed this week. Looking for an apt in my price range in NYC has been a nightmare, as well as getting my future roommate/sis to be proactive about her participation in the search. Will Def try this method in order to find some solutions. Thank you, as always, Marie and Josh for the kickass advice!

  4. What do you do when you have a problem or stress that isn't fixable and your not able to change your opinion because it's just truly sad?

  5. I work with one of the worst employees I've ever had to deal with. She's negatively affecting my work as well as making it impossible for me to be a team player. Not only does she stress me out, but my negative attitude all day long scares the crap out of me. I need to work as hard as I can. They won't fire her even when she's a no call, no show; but id I keep working as hard as I can, someone will notice and get me out of there! Bigger and better things await! I need to stop and smell the roses. Find things that boost my mood and change my attitude. I'm letting her ruin my whole day as opposed to just screwing up part of it. Even if she's not willing, I need to maintain my sportsmanship towards this team I am forced to play with. Teams help each other out. I need to keep showing up for all the great employees.

  6. I have a realllly simple ABC thought log exercise in my book that you would love. If you ever want me to talk you through it, shoot me a message! It's like your stress log idea, but kicked up a notch to help you break down the thought patterns that are making you shoot yourself in the foot.

  7. I love it. You talk about something similar in your book. Writing the whole to do list / stress list down. Helped me extremely

  8. Writing things down always helps me! Thanks for this reminder because I can get lazy sometimes:-) Take care!—- Brandis

  9. I found ur site completely by accident. Saw a couple of clips and subscribed straight away. Very inspiring and helpful, better than Oprah in my opinion, and I'm entitled to it coz u said so ! Luv ur work and never miss an ep. And watch the girls don't come out to play, I luv it. Please keep it up, You really make a difference xxx

  10. Sometimes a stressful situation I come across gets compounded by the worrying I do before I take actions to solving it. I started giving my worry an appointment. "I will worry about such and such at this time later." This frees up my mind so I can keep my focus and if the appointment keeps (sometimes it cancels 😀) then the appointment is given a 5 minute limit.

  11. This video could not have come at a better time. 🙂 Thank you, Marie! Now, off to write my stress log. XO from the Philippines.

  12. This is a great tip for handling stress. Love the humor. (Follow me on Twitter/Instagram =digitald0m ) thanks for the videos , keep up the great work! STRESS LOG idea is genius 💯🎯😊

  13. Hi Marie! I really liked your video and am going to give this a shot tonight. I would love it if you made a video on how to create a sleep schedule that works for you. That's been an issue of stress for me as an entrepreneur who manages herself. Thank you!

  14. I don't know how ill send my studying work on time. solutions: ill study while on the bus, and then when I get I'm gonna write the work right away, I will dedicate my day to it.

  15. I have a "brain dump" journal too! Sometimes you become tense and feeling stressed out because you have all these thoughts in your head…like a big giant balloon that's ready to pop. It helps me to write them all down… to vent all my negative thoughts. All languages allowed. About halfway down the page, I usually start to feel much better. By the end of my brain dump , I give out a big sigh and feel the heavy load is off my shoulders. My head feels clearer and I am able to focus better on what's important.

  16. stress-ercism… yea, i'm totally using that one!
    whoa, i needed this one – thanks! i loves me some marie tv tuesdays.

    stresser: trying to manage wearing all my hats (work from home, 6 yr old's mom, active school parent, scout assistant – with a disbility :-))
    – keep a very detailed calendar. add meetings appointments etc. IMMEDIATELY!
    – keep pertinent info accesible in my phone – so that if i'm not home, i can still have access to what i need
    – learn to say no sometimes.

  17. What stresses me out is wasting 5 minutes to get a 1 second Tweetable. Solution: Don't watch any more Marie Forleo videos, just check out her tweets instead 😀

  18. While I don't have a stress log – I tend to make a note on scratch paper with any problems, set it to the side and let it rest. Seems then I stop focusing on it and solutions start popping in my head…then I just scratch those on the scratch paper to analyze later.

    Sheryl

  19. I have been using this technique for years and it definitely works. I've struggled with anxiety for most of my life and this is one of the ways I manage it. I believe in God and so my list is usually called "Things that are stressing me out / Things I am giving to God." I write down everything whether it's money or I'm just feeling bad about my hair. Once it's on the paper, I don't look at my list anymore. I just let it go and feel 100 times better! Writing is therapy! Do it!

  20. write a list yeah that's not gonna happen I'm too spontaneous n my life is too unpredictable n how does that even help 90% of the time its uncontrolable.

  21. This may sound crazy but I was trying not to be me. Let me explain. I natural speak loud. I'm a passionate person. Although I am tough as nails I sometime takes comments to heart and give it too much of my time. After listen to your opening I'm done trying to change who I am. I hope that makes sense.

  22. Thank you Marie! I just did that this morning before watching your video. Now I know the reasons why it helped me so much. My mind is clear. Happy weekend! Love, Mariana

  23. Yes writing it down is a great place to purge and SEE your issue at hand. I text it to myself and when Im over the stress…delete!:-)

  24. Pharmacy school stressed me out. If I 1) stop procrastinating 2) make a better effort to plan out a schedule for the work I need to do and 3) "don't sweat the small stuff" or worry about the things I can't change I can probably eliminate stress from this area of my life. Thanks again Marie!

  25. I'm stressed about taking with people, I mean I'm afraid I'm gonna make fool out of myself that I'll say or do sth stupid. So when I'm in situation when I have to for example set a conversation in class among students, I'm so stressed I trying to make myself so small to avoid saying anything and when I finally HAVE to say sth (even about the thing I'm keen on) I'm ending really making fool out of myself – because of stress I'm not thinking right… However I know that EVERYBODY make mistakes, it's natural and normal, but on the other hand I'm not allowing myself to make some, this isn't really smart right?
    Wow, this video made me think about this problem 🙂 thanks!

  26. The thing which is stressing me is a bit personal, it is about the family.. I am sure I can resolve this if I start staying a little away from them. However, I cant do that due to the society. And it is not easy decision to move from the family… Not sure what to do now

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